Browsing the old FB, I scrolled upon a friend’s status:

“It’s not cool to call women bitches left and right. Bitches be this or that. Not only do men do it and that’s a whole other issue but other women get in on it as well. Where did all of this self hate come from?”

Sympathizing with her thoughts, I decided to do a little research.

I have speculations that it could have stemmed from the idea of beauty and being desirable. It’s not natural for women to wear makeup, shave their legs, and be obsessed with their appearance. These ideologies stem out of patriarchy (man has power, women is object). Cosmetic and beauty companies were founded by men and most still have men for CEOs, like Dove, Maybelline, and Pantene. Even Victoria’s Secret was founded by a man. Men tell women what they need and what they should want. Men control media, advertisements, and industry. Men create the socially formed world we live in. These are not theories. These are facts. More men are in positions of power and decision-making. Significantly more men are directors, news anchors, filmmakers, tv producers, CEOs, government officials, etc. And while men control the social world, women become distracted from their purpose in the world, from the important aspects of life. Women have been trained to only care about what people think of them (there are actually studies to prove this as well. Read “Throwing Like a Girl: A phenomenology of feminine body comportment motility and spatiality” by Iris Marion Young). In that process, women become jealous of other women, use their energy bringing other women down. When the goal in life is to be the sexiest, thinnest, smartest, most innocent, most bangable girl, women will race to the top, pushing down as many along the way as they can. But women, once we realize that none of this matters, we can stop caring what others think of us and start supporting each other. If you want to wear makeup and high heels or t-shirts and boots, THAT IS OKAY. Hallelujah sister we support you! We can’t keep letting men distract us from what’s important: human rights, clean water, peace, equality, love, acceptance, clean air, livable wages, good health, sustainable agriculture, reliable government, respect, empowerment, ethics, kindness, brilliance, empathy, compassion, resilience, diversity, solidarity. Women, WE ARE NEEDED. There’s a reason we make up more than half of the population, and it’s that’s not to spend out time, money, and minds on makeup or holding grudges. We are here to make a difference. Tall, short, thick, thin, virgin, mother, hair, razor, lipstick, Chapstick, brown, yellow, white, black, red, orange, doesn’t matter. We are ALL valuable and worthy.

It is time women tell their own story. People who are not white tell their own story. Minorities tell there own story. White men, we love you; but you have to let other people contribute to this beautiful world too. Our government represents SIX percent of our population (male, white, married, straight, christian, over age 35, college degree, high income). There are other people in this world, other religions, races, ages, views. We all want representation, and the world would truly benefit from diversity and a more accurate depiction of society. When the people who make decisions never experience the consequences of their decisions, we have an endangered world. We have anger, hunger, violence, misrepresentation, discrimination, wealth distribution inequality, global climate injustice, child labor, family-farmer suicide, rape, mass incarceration. Government officials make decisions based on what they know and have experienced; filmmakers write and direct stories they know and experience. This means we’re getting one perception of this diverse world. People at the top, stay at the top and control what society looks like through the media… an inaccurate depiction. This post is not to degrade men, white people, or people of power. This post is to encourage acceptance, love, diversity, and accurate representation.


FuN fAcTs! (Read them. Get angry. Wrap that anger in love. And stand in support for ALL women… and really, for all people).

Women make up 18% of the 2014 US House of representatives.

Women represent 51% of the US population, yet comprise 20% of congress.

35 women have served as US governors compared to 2,319 men.

In Nancy Pelosi’s four years as Speaker of the House, she has been on the cover of zero national weekly magazines.

Women own only 5.8% of all television stations and 6% of radio stations.

71 countries in the world have had female presidents or prime ministers, the US is not one of them.

U.S. women continue to earn 77¢ to every dollar that men earn.

Women hold only 5% of clout positions in telecommunications, entertainment, publishing, and advertising.

In nine states and the District of Colombia women who are victims of domestic abuse can be denied healthcare coverage because domestic abuse can be considered a preexisting condition.

53% of 13-year-old girls are unhappy with their bodies.  That number increases to 78% by age 17.

It is estimated that out of the 8 million people with an eating disorder 7 of those million are women.

The U.S is the only major industrialized nation without paid family leave.

1 in 4 girls experience teen dating violence.

1 in 4 women are abused by a partner in their lifetime.

1 in 6 women are survivors of rape or attempted rape.

Depression in women has doubled since 1970.Between 1937 and 2005 there were only 13 female protagonists in animated films…All of them except one had the aspiration of finding romance.

The number of cosmetic surgical procedures performed on youth under age 19 more than tripled from 1997 to 2007.

70% of women in the workforce are mothers; yet we have no national paid leave child care or flex time policy.

Women currently hold 4.6% of Fortune 1000 CEO positions.

In 2012, women comprised 18% of all directors, executive producers, producers, writers, cinematographers, and editors working on the top 250 domestic grossing films. This represents an increase of 2 percentage points from 2010 and an increase of 1 percentage point from 1998.
– Celluloid Ceiling 2012 Report

Women accounted for 15% of writers, 17% of executive producers, 20% of editors, 4% of cinematographers, and 25% of producers working on the top 250 domestic grossing films of 2011. – Celluloid Ceiling 2012 Report

Only 11% of all clearly identifiable protagonists are female, 78% are male. – It’s a Man’s (Celluloid) World

Things are not moving in the right direction for women onscreen.  The numbers are stuck at around 30%, yet remember, women buy 50% of the tickets.  The numbers continue to show that Hollywood doesn’t care enough about women.  They believe that sexualizing girls and women sells tickets. – Indiewire

Women support women. Films directed by women feature more women in all roles. There is a 21% increase in women working on a narrative film when there is a female director and a 24% of women working on documentaries. – Indiewire